Month: January 2022

By Lindiwe

It’s a new year and I am looking forward to new opportunities and challenges, the new experiences, and the amazing new people I am going to come across.

I want to be more comfortable in my body new year, buying new things and being more comfortable in the clothes that I buy, I am currently obsessed the leggings I buy now and loungewear because I am always working from home, so I always want to look cute.

I want to change my environments more this year so that I experience more and explore more places. I love how you can potentially rediscover yourself in some places and that is what is what I want to achieve this year, discovery and finding parts of myself that I lost.

I want to socialise more. Meet up with friends and make sure that I show up for the people the people that I love and want to share life with.

Listening to myself more this year is my biggest purpose for this year, and I want to prioritize that more so that I can make better decisions that I make and be more conscious and intentional about them.

Listening to myself more can help me doubt myself less because I can be in more control of what I need to be aware of and focus more on the things I can control and change

My goal setting intentions – I promised myself to be more open to goal setting this year, in the past I have been always so scared to open myself up to challenging myself because I was always so scared to fail and I feel like I am over that now and I want to challenge myself with small goals that I can achieve at my own pace throughout and if I do not get to that because life got the better of me that is also okay, the most important thing is to try.

And that is it from me, I am wishing a prosperous new year and I hope we achieve all can this year and try again no matter how difficult it is, what matters is that you tried and to me that matters – you are seen, you are important, and your efforts are glorious.

Take Care!🪴🤍

by Lindiwe

Our mental health is the most important part of our being, it keeps us present in our daily lives and helps keep our emotions and feelings in check.

But what happens when you don’t usually check on yourself, your mental health, and your feelings? You are more likely to act out of character, setting boundaries will be more difficult and you will lack self-awareness.

And that is where taking care of your mental health and as well you’re prioritising it comes to play. We usually talk about this practise but how does one take care of themselves and their mental health?

• Establish Boundaries – Every now and again we need to be clear about what we want for ourselves and as well as how we would like other people to love and respect us and that is important because you need to know here you stand with yourself or the people around you to make decisions.

• Indulge in self-care – Take care of yourself, look after yourself, be kinder to yourself, feed your soul and free your mind. You can do this by watching your favourite series after a long day, doing your skincare routine, cooking yourself your favourite food, taking walks after a long day, or having a lively conversation with your loved ones.

• Journal at least four times a week – Journaling can be the best way to track your feelings and a good release for when you feel as though you do not have anybody to talk to. Journaling is a form of meditation and it can help regulate your thoughts and how much you bottle up inside. You can journal about your day, your feelings, your gratitude, and your daily affirmations. Be kind and honest with yourself when you do this.

• Introspect for self-awareness – Introspection can be very difficult because there will be many things that you will realise about yourself and how you played a part in some situations in your life playing out and that is okay, focus on the positive realisations about yourself and forgive yourself for the negative realisations, we are all humans, we will make mistakes but now that you are here reading this article means you want to fix those mistakes. Do daily affirmations to help you deal with the truth that comes with introspection.

• Surround yourself with people who make you happy – This is very important, who we surround ourselves with plays a huge part in our self-discovery, because the people you surround yourself with should mirror your mindset. Choose people who love you as much as you love them, choose people who care and want to be there.

• Be kinder yourself – I have been echoing the words “be kind” and I really mean it, you should show yourself the gentlest love before you give it to others, be softer to yourself, spoil yourself, talk to yourself with kindness.

• Meditation – Calm your thoughts and meditation can be your best bet, you need to find a quiet position, sit in a comfortable position, take deep breaths, and focus on your breathing, and quieten your mind – this technique needs practice, you will get the hang of it with each practice.

• Take time off Social media – Social media breaks are so important to your mental health as you will experience a world that is more calm and subtle, reading other people’s thoughts for hours on end can be very daunting and you are most likely to be triggered on social media, give yourself a break where you experience your own world, listen to your own thoughts, and reconnect with yourself.

• Do not feel guilty for choosing yourself – We usually do feel guilty for choosing ourselves because we are no longer allowing people to take advantage of us, or people no longer overstepping our boundaries and that is okay, but the fact that you decided to enforce those boundaries showed that you wanted change and people may make you feel bad for that  but always remember why you did this in the first place.

• See a therapist – This is always my best advice because it has worked for me and having somebody to talk can do wonders to your mental health and self-awareness, and it can help you realise the parts of your life where you need to enforce boundaries, therapy is healing if you allow it and work through your emotions. 

And that is all from me, please remember to put yourself first, love freely and wholeheartedly, spend time with yourself, feel those feelings, tell the people around you that you love them and just live.

Take Care!