Category: Mind, Body, and Soul

By Lindiwe

And we meet again, when the weather is warmer, and life is looking just a little bit better. As you all know that spring/summer is my favourite season and I get to reconnect with my loved ones, explore with my fashion sense, I have been looking into trying out new dress styles, shorts and crop tops to buy now.

With all that said, how are you? I wanted this blog to be a check in, how are you really doing? Because friend, there’s a lot I would like to offload and tell you since we last spoke.

So where do I begin? Remember the times they told us that things usually get better eventually? Yes, that is the period of my life I am currently in and to be honest I appreciate this season, but I also feel a bit lost. I feel as though I am not deserving of this little glimpse of happiness and love that I am currently getting now, and I always must remind myself to continue to be kind to myself and the thoughts I have about myself.

I wanted to check in with you guys, so I don’t feel as though I am self-destructing because honestly it feels like I am. I have been so used to being in spaces where I constantly to be on the lookout and to hide and guide my feelings to avoid expectations and disappointments.

And now that I shouldn’t do that, I won’t lie I don’t know how to act but this feeling is strange and freeing because I don’t know a feeling like this. I have always said that I want to be happy, and happiness knocked at my door and gave me exactly what I wanted, and I don’t know how to act? Sounds like I really don’t know what I really want.
This made me think harder about intention and what you can expect from those intentions.

In my case, I prayed and never really expected the prayer to come to fruition and I was disappointed in myself for that because I always speak of intention, so this is the thing I did to stop the cycle of self-destruction and that is working through the negative emotions, It’s so easy for negative emotions to take over the moment you have been waiting for so long and it is not easy working through them either.

And it is okay to feel like the negative emotions are taking over, but realising that feelings aren’t facts it will be easy for you to take note of what you are feeling and accept the negative thoughts for a minute but do not allow yourself to be consumed by the negative thoughts. You can however allow yourself time to feel these emotions.

I have noticed that I do not give myself time to work through the negative emotions and that is not fair on myself and the progress I am trying to make in my life at the moment, so I allow myself about a day to feel everything I need to feel, journal through the feelings, have a moment to myself and at the end of the day let all of those emotions go.

I also like to reassure myself, and I am making it part of my self-care ritual, to re-assure myself that I am deserving, because the good things that are coming my way now? I deserve that and I deserve everything good that is coming my way.

My last message to you and myself is that everything will be okay, and we will be okay, we will overcome the hurdles, and we will get everything good.

Let’s enjoy this new season.

Take care, til next time!🌸

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By Lindiwe

Hi guys, I hope you are all well, we are entering a new season and once again a new season means new blessings, new challenges, and a whole load of abundance, I wish you all the best in the new season. May you take on new hobbies, meet new people or allow yourself new experiences.🪴

I have been working to adjusting to new season, introducing new habits and new meditations, getting new clothes, sweats, and new jeans to buy now that are cute and comfortable, I love a good denim and just being comfortable during the winter.

But today’s topic is about understanding, grace & growth, and this is inspired by a YouTube channel that I watch often. I found myself going through a lot of growth over the past few months. As my regular readers know when the highs are high for me, and the lows are also at their lowest and I am finally okay with that as difficult as it is.

My reasoning behind that is we all know that life is not easy and for me personally life has been life’ing at its peak and I no longer want to hide that, and I now no longer want to pretend like I have it all together, however I also want to make sure that I experience the best out of every situation whenever I can and at the best possible way.

I did not have this outlook out of life until recently, and there was a lot that pushed me to this point including the challenges that have also led me to this point. I know there are a lot of life pressures that push us to constantly to want us to be perfect to get through them and that should not be the case and to be honest you do not have to be perfect or act like you have it all together to get through anything in your life, because instead that puts you in a weird situation and all of a sudden you are afraid to let people in or ask for help because you’d like to be seen as somebody who has it all together.

There is so much grace in being honest to yourself about yourself and the circumstances that leads you in all directions of life, there is grace in being honest because you allow yourself to be whole with yourself and be more self- aware and know what you are capable of and that allows you to explore about how you can attract more blessings in your life or fix certain situations you are no longer happy with.

Recently I have been feeling closer to God and His power to make it all okay and believe in that promise and the bible verse that has kept be going was Isaiah 41:10 which speaks of God asking us not to be afraid and that we should lean into his promises and for us to trust in Him in any situation we find ourselves in, and that provided clarity for me in the fact that I no longer have to suffer alone, I have God and I have the people in my life who can help with me get through the most difficult paths that I have to go through. There is so much certainty in knowing that you are protected and guided enough to get through even the most stressful periods in your life. And that is where the rose who grew from the concrete is created, within you and only for you.

When you realise that you have the strength to get through even when you feel worn out, when you feel outcasted, when you feel overwhelmed or when you feel like the route you are taking in your life is not really yours to take, you have time to start over and be who you are and feel how you want and finally be stable in your life.

Listen to yourself, listen to the voice of God, listen to the universe because our intuition get’s us through life. Our perspective gets us through the cracks of life. So, from this point going forward I wish you growth, I wish you all good and I pray that you understand all the seasons in your life and an open and clear mind on how to deal with all the favourable and unfavourable that occur even when we want favourable all the time. I wish you a clear path to finally mark your journey to success.

And that is it from me! Til next time, take care!🪴🤍

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By Lindiwe

Hi guys, I hope you guys are doing well. 🪴

So, I just want to have a conversation with you on adjusting to new environments or being introduced to new phases in your life and how you can adjust to these changes when you are ready.

There has been a lot of change in my life lately, and I have been through phases I never thought I would go through in just three months into the year, it’s also almost sweatshirt season and I have been looking at my favourite sweatshirts online – I am so excited for new weather and for a new season of transformation.

Adjusting to new environments can be very unnerving, you could have feelings of anxiousness and a lot of doubt and I have felt that three months into the new year and at first I did not realise the extent in which the negative emotions actually got to me and how they hindered my progress in those little transitions that I have been going through in my life and ultimately that led me to go back to my comfort zone and hide there again and just go back to the place where I do not grow

Well… that’s bad – I know and I have really criticised myself up enough about that and I have done all the work I needed to do to get over that feeling of disappointment about the reason why I went back to my hiding spot being my comfort zone.

And that leads me to the point of this blog, I felt deep shame that I went back to my comfort zone when initially I was led out of it for a reason. I felt very disconnected and I felt like I did not listen to God’s word and guidance and that weighed very heavy on my heart and I felt down for weeks on end and that is not how I wanted things to turn out for me.

But on the other hand I was relieved, I felt like it was a good decision because deep down I knew I was not ready for this change and I did not have strength to see it through, that was the comfort speaking though, I would agree to these feelings but that was the comfort speaking.

Adaptation is a process that usually takes time and the feelings of loneliness and doubt do not vanish overnight and that is what takes time, settling in and being alone with the decision that you have made for change is not so easy.

And feeling this way is okay and those feelings are normal and as I am writing this post it is a mental note to us that even if things change, you still have yourself as your home and even though your environments play a huge role in who you are, they should not make you doubt who you are and who you aspire to be.

It will take time to get used to different ways of doing things and to develop a new network of support and to get into the swing of new things. And you need to remember that the changes that you make today are for yourself and your development.

It is very difficult to do something different at first, there are so many obstacles to be faced, and confrontations to be made but what matters is how you feel in that decision. You may fail to adjust to new environments and new people, a new job, a new place, and that is okay, that is part of the process, but it will be worth it in the end. Because you have chosen yourself, you have chosen your growth and you have chosen your path to something bigger and greater.

Transitions are never easy and sometimes running right back to your comfort zone is the only option but remember that a new environment is an invitation of growth so you can be better.

So, I am writing to us to keep try to be better in the unknown, to learn and feel in spaces that feel foreign because that might be the start of new growth.

And that is all from me this week! 🤍

Take care! 🤍🌱

By Lindiwe

It’s a new year and I am looking forward to new opportunities and challenges, the new experiences, and the amazing new people I am going to come across.

I want to be more comfortable in my body new year, buying new things and being more comfortable in the clothes that I buy, I am currently obsessed the leggings I buy now and loungewear because I am always working from home, so I always want to look cute.

I want to change my environments more this year so that I experience more and explore more places. I love how you can potentially rediscover yourself in some places and that is what is what I want to achieve this year, discovery and finding parts of myself that I lost.

I want to socialise more. Meet up with friends and make sure that I show up for the people the people that I love and want to share life with.

Listening to myself more this year is my biggest purpose for this year, and I want to prioritize that more so that I can make better decisions that I make and be more conscious and intentional about them.

Listening to myself more can help me doubt myself less because I can be in more control of what I need to be aware of and focus more on the things I can control and change

My goal setting intentions – I promised myself to be more open to goal setting this year, in the past I have been always so scared to open myself up to challenging myself because I was always so scared to fail and I feel like I am over that now and I want to challenge myself with small goals that I can achieve at my own pace throughout and if I do not get to that because life got the better of me that is also okay, the most important thing is to try.

And that is it from me, I am wishing a prosperous new year and I hope we achieve all can this year and try again no matter how difficult it is, what matters is that you tried and to me that matters – you are seen, you are important, and your efforts are glorious.

Take Care!🪴🤍

by Lindiwe

Our mental health is the most important part of our being, it keeps us present in our daily lives and helps keep our emotions and feelings in check.

But what happens when you don’t usually check on yourself, your mental health, and your feelings? You are more likely to act out of character, setting boundaries will be more difficult and you will lack self-awareness.

And that is where taking care of your mental health and as well you’re prioritising it comes to play. We usually talk about this practise but how does one take care of themselves and their mental health?

• Establish Boundaries – Every now and again we need to be clear about what we want for ourselves and as well as how we would like other people to love and respect us and that is important because you need to know here you stand with yourself or the people around you to make decisions.

• Indulge in self-care – Take care of yourself, look after yourself, be kinder to yourself, feed your soul and free your mind. You can do this by watching your favourite series after a long day, doing your skincare routine, cooking yourself your favourite food, taking walks after a long day, or having a lively conversation with your loved ones.

• Journal at least four times a week – Journaling can be the best way to track your feelings and a good release for when you feel as though you do not have anybody to talk to. Journaling is a form of meditation and it can help regulate your thoughts and how much you bottle up inside. You can journal about your day, your feelings, your gratitude, and your daily affirmations. Be kind and honest with yourself when you do this.

• Introspect for self-awareness – Introspection can be very difficult because there will be many things that you will realise about yourself and how you played a part in some situations in your life playing out and that is okay, focus on the positive realisations about yourself and forgive yourself for the negative realisations, we are all humans, we will make mistakes but now that you are here reading this article means you want to fix those mistakes. Do daily affirmations to help you deal with the truth that comes with introspection.

• Surround yourself with people who make you happy – This is very important, who we surround ourselves with plays a huge part in our self-discovery, because the people you surround yourself with should mirror your mindset. Choose people who love you as much as you love them, choose people who care and want to be there.

• Be kinder yourself – I have been echoing the words “be kind” and I really mean it, you should show yourself the gentlest love before you give it to others, be softer to yourself, spoil yourself, talk to yourself with kindness.

• Meditation – Calm your thoughts and meditation can be your best bet, you need to find a quiet position, sit in a comfortable position, take deep breaths, and focus on your breathing, and quieten your mind – this technique needs practice, you will get the hang of it with each practice.

• Take time off Social media – Social media breaks are so important to your mental health as you will experience a world that is more calm and subtle, reading other people’s thoughts for hours on end can be very daunting and you are most likely to be triggered on social media, give yourself a break where you experience your own world, listen to your own thoughts, and reconnect with yourself.

• Do not feel guilty for choosing yourself – We usually do feel guilty for choosing ourselves because we are no longer allowing people to take advantage of us, or people no longer overstepping our boundaries and that is okay, but the fact that you decided to enforce those boundaries showed that you wanted change and people may make you feel bad for that  but always remember why you did this in the first place.

• See a therapist – This is always my best advice because it has worked for me and having somebody to talk can do wonders to your mental health and self-awareness, and it can help you realise the parts of your life where you need to enforce boundaries, therapy is healing if you allow it and work through your emotions. 

And that is all from me, please remember to put yourself first, love freely and wholeheartedly, spend time with yourself, feel those feelings, tell the people around you that you love them and just live.

Take Care!

By Lindiwe

Hi guys

I finally have more time to myself lately because I am done with my commitments and I am using all this time to invest back into my looks and look a little bit different this summer. You guys know that summer is my most favourite season so doing this will bring me closer to myself and what I like.

I have been trying to the find the best makeover look for me this entire year I have been trying new hairstyles and new wardrobe suggestions and I really haven’t found any that I have settled with yet, I am still finding my feet, so at the moment I am looking for a look that makes me feel so much better for the season of life that I am currently in and because I am more calm and relaxed at this moment , I’m looking for more neutral clothing or light coloured clothing, I do not know the science behind that but I just want some warm tones and lighter clothing and that is where I am headed this summer.

I have been eyeing a few items since this month started because of the Black Friday Deals at Superbalist and this is my Black Friday Wishlist:

New Blue Light Glasses

Premium Mid Hoop – Gold Plated Tube

Rex Double Buckle Slides

Dress

Jumpsuits

Air Max Bolt

Boyfriend Shirt

And this is my black Friday Wishlist and I have been eyeing these with new phone as well, I have been manifesting a better phone so I can take better pictures of the sunset and the sunrise when I can but all of that will come in due time, for now I am feeding my shopping obsession this black Friday.

And that is all from me, take care and keep well!

Hi guys🪴

I hope you guys are well and that you’re enjoying the new month, the warm weather and also trying to finish the year strong 🤍

This blog is a “taking it easy” blog where I just share what I’ve been up to feel better about the end of year fatigue and the never ending academic pressure.

So I’ve been having better weeks than my usual weeks but it’s been so much easier and I’ll always appreciate the easy and soft days and I just want to share those with you.

I decided on a Saturday morning that I just want to have a meaningful day, a day with no disturbances and deadlines, a day where I just feel okay doing nothing, and I headed over to Bryanston to have a moment to myself and take it easy and I put my best dress chile! 🥺

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I tried a new restaurant with my partner in Bryanston called Rockets and my partner suggested the place and I was just keen to try something new!

I tried their pasta for the first time and I was definitely sold, their service and their turnaround time was amazing. They made us feel comfortable through and through.

We spent most of our time there just relaxing and we didn’t even notice where the time left and in moment of enjoying and taking everything in, we just decided to take more and more pictures!

Okay that’s it from me, I just realized I didn’t do anything eventful 😂 but it was spectacular to me and I wanted to share it with you.

I hope you rest when you get the chance to, spend time with the people and in your life and remember to take in the little moments and live ❤.

Take Care!🪴

By Lindiwe

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Spring and Summer are undoubtably my best seasons in every way and I bet you know that by now, it is the season of wins, of reconciliations, of love and ultimate joy.

I feel as though I just look after myself way better in the summer, I go overboard with the online shopping looking for my favourite sun dresses, my skin just instantly pops, and my hair just wants to shine.

Usually, my experience with the sun is a personal one, the sun knows my joys, it knows my sadness, but it knows who I really am and that is why I like to turn my face my face towards the sun ever so often because often I am grateful to feel like I am blooming again, and I feel like me once again. It’s always such a blessing to feel brand new and to feel reborn, with an opportunity to try again.

Today I want us to touch on “taking care of yourself through the summer” and initially I just wanted to name steps on what you can do to take care of yourself, but I want touch on how to feel good through the summer.

In South Africa summer starts at the end of the year and usually people feel some sort of ‘year-end fatigue’ as we may always call it where we usually experience burn-out, extreme fatigue, unwillingness to try or feeling like you are on your last stretch and that is what I want to touch on this blog post, so here are a few tips to make you feel just a little better!

Give yourself a break every chance you can

I always preach this and that is because I am the biggest preacher of self-care and when you feel yourself burning out, give yourself time to take a breather, listen to your favourite music, schedule hours off your schedule and just give yourself time. Too often we do not give each other time to think, breathe and feel and I think it’s time you did that, its time to breathe.

Treat yourself to whatever makes you happy

Your happiness is what keeps you grounded so you should always look to make yourself happy, and content and my favourite way of making myself happy is going crazy with the online shopping and just wanting to feel good through clothes and you can do the same. You can write down what makes you happy, even the little things – those insignificant things that make you smile, do them and make yourself so happy

Taking a break from social media

Taking a few hours, days or a few weeks from social media can help you feel lighter and feel more and present in your daily life because you are no longer internalizing other people’s thoughts subconsciously and that can help you feel less pre-occupied and feel more rejuvenated.

Eat healthy and drink a lot of water

This one is quite self-explanatory because we have heard it all our lives, but I just want to remind you that eating healthy, taking your vitamins, being in the sun and drinking 8 glasses of water can make you feel better, take it from and me and I just know you know it to so – do it

Socialise whenever you get the chance to

Letting loose and talking to people who are willing to support you and listen to you is such a joy and a blessing and that is why I just say – speak, speaking to someone about anything makes you feel better, it is so amazing what a good laugh and a good conversation can do for you in the present moment.

Get enough sleep

My favourite one! Getting enough rest can help you achieve more during the day so that you are able to have more time doing what you want in your free time. Feeling refreshed and well-rested is the best way to start being motivated and achieve more and look forward to what is about to come in your life.

It is possible to end your year strong and enjoy the now and the present and want to try again in the next year, do what makes you comfortable this summer and what makes you feel alive. All the best wishes from me and let us have the best summer the best way we know how, enjoy the sun, appreciate the people around and always do the best you can.

Take Care!🧡🌅

By Lindiwe

Hi guys, welcome to this week’s blog and today we’re exploring the option “what if it all works out just fine?”

This thought came to me today after going over the progress I’ve made with this blog, in my work career and my academic life and I realised that hey… things did just work out just fine.

And that makes you think of all of the times you doubted your journey because you felt as though you were not being guided enough or that you don’t feel like you’re enough for the journey that you are embarking on.

In our daily lives we feel a lot of emotions and sometimes we may project, doubt ourselves or feel like we are not worthy of the things that we achieve and chile, I need us to get out of that!

I need us to realise that we are deserving, we are so worthy, we are so worthy of the blessings that God provides us, we are worthy of all the good things that happen to us.

So, “what if it all works out just fine?” , what if we stop worrying about things out of our control? What if all our hearts desires are already taken of? And all we can do is focus on the now and work as smart and hard as we can?

I’ve said this before and I think I’ll say it again, it’s so easy to get distracted and consumed in self doubt and feeling inadequate and forgetting to be present in your journey and enjoy it, enjoying your progress will help keep you motivated and it helps you think clearly of how you’d like this journey to improve you in every aspect of your life.

To keep yourself present, grateful and secured you can journal your feelings and thoughts on your journey, you must journal all of your positive thoughts and negative feelings, keeping in mind that your negative feelings are not facts but still very much valid. Journaling can help track your progress, but very much remind you that you’re doing just fine.

Make short term goals within your journey, this will help you keep focused and within reach of what you are able to do and know what you can achieve. You are capable of doing anything you put your mind to, never underestimate yourself.

You can use affirmations to keep you present and grounded in the moment. You can write down all your hearts desires and affirm yourself that you can do it and it is possible for you to even do it exceptionally well.

And this leads me to the end of this blog and I just want to say that, it will be okay, you will succeed and you will fulfill your hearts desires. Don’t let self-doubt and imposter syndrome convince you otherwise – you are amazing.

This is all from me! Take care🌅🧡

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Hi guys, happy Spring, happy new season.

Spring is my favorite season, it’s a season of becoming, restoration, healing and living.

I’ve had a few bad months this year but they also came with blessings, with love and lessons for the future.

I hope in this season we live, love and be free. I hope we work harder towards our goals and we we receive our hearts desires.

I want to add a new segment to my blog this season, a haircare and fashion segment. I want to challenge myself and try something new and I hope you love it and walk with me through this new change.

I wish you a glorious spring and summer, it will be one to remember.

Take care🧡🌅